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Importance of Eye Contact When Communicating With Kids

importance of eye contact when communicating with kidsWe all know that keeping eye contact in any conversation is essential. Its importance is mani folded when you are communicating with a child. Every parenting book and guide emphasizes the importance of eye contact when communicating with kids.

What Message Does a Conversation without Eye Contact Give?

Eye contact is a part of body language and it conveys a much deeper message. For a few second imagine a conversation without eye contact. Think about someone is talking to you without looking into your eyes, what message that conversation is giving? Most probably one of the following.

  • The conversation is not important.
  • You feel unimportant.
  • Truth is not being told.
  • You feel disrespected
  • There is a lack of attention and understanding in the conversation

Let’s check out the importance of eye contact when communicating with kids.

  1. Eye Contact Gives You Your Child’s Attention

A major part of our attention lies where we look. When you make eye contact while talking you pay most attention to what the other one is saying. Same is true for kids. When you have eye contact with them you have most of their attention.

  1. You Make a Connection at a Deeper Level

Eyes are like windows to your child’s soul. When you make eye contact you can look deep into the child. You make a connection at a deeper level which opens the doors of understanding and acceptance.

  1. You Can Observe The Child Better

As the eyes give a lot of info regarding the inner world of your child, you may make important observations while communicating with your child. You may observe the hidden emotions, fears, doubts and strengths of your child

  1. Eye Contact will Increase the Probability of Attentive Listening

When it comes to listening eye contact is of pivotal importance. If there is no eye contact the likelihood of attentive listening of the child is reduced to a minimum.

So whenever you are talking to your child try your best to make eye contact to make sure that your child is actually listening to you.

  1. Eye Contact Increases The Chances of Understanding

When children make eye contact they are more present and attentive which increases their ability to understand what is being said. In the absence of eye contact, your child might not fully understand you but once you have made eye contact the probability of their understanding will increase.

  1. The Child feels Respected

Not giving full attention while communicating is disrespectful. On the other hand, when you pay full attention and make eye contact during conversations your child feels respected.

  1. The Child’s Compliance

Children, especially young children live for the attention and approval of their parents. No wonder why positive reinforcement works wonders with kids.

Eye contact is a form of positive reinforcement for the child. It shows respect, attention, and understanding to the child, hence the compliance of the child increases.

  1. The Need for Yelling Reduces

Most of the times parents yell at children because children are not listening to them. When you got your child’s attention, understanding and compliance then why would you yell at your child? There is no need to. So indirectly you are controlling your anger through proactively communicating with your child in the first place.

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  1. Your Relationship With Your Child Improves

You are communicating effectively, your child is listening to you and showing compliance, you don’t need to yell at your child…guess what? Your relationship with your child will improve.

So a simple act of maintaining eye contact with your child when communicating has the potential of improving the parent-child relationship.


Eye contact is of pivotal importance in communication. A conversation without maintaining eye contact is a halfhearted conversation. If you happen to be in such a conversation you feel disrespected and might well even be doubtful of the contents of the conversation.

Maintaining eye contact gives you your child’s attention, understanding, and compliance. The child feels respected and important. Eye contact helps in knowing the child better.  When you communicate proactively with kids the need to show anger and yelling reduces and as a result, your relationship with your kids improve.

So having a healthy eye contact when communicating with kids has a lot of benefits for positively parenting your kids in a calm, composed and respectable way. From next time onwards do remember to maintain eye contact when communicating with kids to yield maximum benefits.

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